Offering hope, comfort and support for survivors of suicide loss.
I have struggled with this idea of being complete. It all began with the infamous quote from Jerry Macguire, "You complete me." After losing my dad to suicide I began to wonder if we have to be complete? Does having an empty place in your heart make you incomplete? Or does it simply mean that you have suffered a great loss; a loss so great that it took a piece of your heart along with it. Part of the grief process is learning to live without the ...
Crying isn't a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. Why do we link sadness with weakness? Allowing yourself to feel the pain will bring forth a river of tears. Allowing yourself to feel the pain, takes incredible strength. It doesn't take strength to bury the pain. This is much easier than feeling the magnitude of the pain left behind by a suicide loss. I often hear others say, "I still cry everyday." Good! To me this means you are leaning ...
Take time today to acknowledge your strength. A suicide loss is an earth shattering, life changing tragedy. It is not the same as a natural death. A natural death rocks your boat. A suicide loss flips your boat over in the middle of a storm. It takes time and a great deal of strength to not only flip the boat over, but climb back inside. We are often so focused on flipping the boat over that we forget to acknowledge how long we have been in the ...
I was recently talking with a couple girlfriends about the journey we call life. They were discussing friendships that have ended over the years, and the sadness they had over not being able to maintain them. I couldn't help but think about the relationships that dissolved after I lost my dad to suicide. The aftershock of a suicide loss is strong. Not only do you lose the person you loved dearly, but you often lose the life you once knew. With ...
This quote sums up what makes the mourning process more difficult than what we have been taught. We live in a fast paced society, where we are expected to keep going. "Get over it." "It is time to move on." These are common phrases heard in the aftermath of a suicide loss. What people fail to acknowledge after a loss, is it isn't just about the loss of life. It is about the loss of a future that is no longer possible. This notion is often what ...
