Offering hope, comfort and support for survivors of suicide loss.
I was honored to be asked to be a featured expert on Marriage.com. In a world plagued by social media, our marriage and/or relationships can easily be placed under the microscope. We question if the person we have chosen to share our life with is the right one. Is there someone out there better suited to be with me? Does this person even understand me? Throw in a tragic loss like suicide, and the one thing that felt stable may feel completely ...
Crying isn't a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. Why do we link sadness with weakness? Allowing yourself to feel the pain will bring forth a river of tears. Allowing yourself to feel the pain, takes incredible strength. It doesn't take strength to bury the pain. This is much easier than feeling the magnitude of the pain left behind by a suicide loss. I often hear others say, "I still cry everyday." Good! To me this means you are leaning ...
Take time today to acknowledge your strength. A suicide loss is an earth shattering, life changing tragedy. It is not the same as a natural death. A natural death rocks your boat. A suicide loss flips your boat over in the middle of a storm. It takes time and a great deal of strength to not only flip the boat over, but climb back inside. We are often so focused on flipping the boat over that we forget to acknowledge how long we have been in the ...
I was recently talking with a couple girlfriends about the journey we call life. They were discussing friendships that have ended over the years, and the sadness they had over not being able to maintain them. I couldn't help but think about the relationships that dissolved after I lost my dad to suicide. The aftershock of a suicide loss is strong. Not only do you lose the person you loved dearly, but you often lose the life you once knew. With ...
This quote sums up what makes the mourning process more difficult than what we have been taught. We live in a fast paced society, where we are expected to keep going. "Get over it." "It is time to move on." These are common phrases heard in the aftermath of a suicide loss. What people fail to acknowledge after a loss, is it isn't just about the loss of life. It is about the loss of a future that is no longer possible. This notion is often what ...
